How to keep up the social network
While there’s no one blanket rule or fool-proof answer to helping our parents as they get older, we do know the importance of supporting them through this life stage so that they can feel in control and confident in their later years. This is why Apia and Five Good Friends have partnered up to create The Guide to Living Well, which is a new resource outlining tools, tips and insights from experts to help families work through the challenges that can be associated with growing older.
Different stages of life can bring changes to our social circumstances – and you might be particularly conscious of these as you watch your parents get older. Circumstances like deciding to give up driving, or a change in living situation will come with many lifestyle changes that can increase stress on the individual and the families.
So that we can combat feelings of isolation and loneliness, and make sure our loved ones are staying connected, we should encourage our parents to get involved in social activities. On the surface these can seem like simply a way to fill the hours, but there are some documented health benefits as well.
Beyondblue also found that the number of Australians feeling lonely is increasing over time, and those in their later years are even more susceptible to those feelings of isolation – but it doesn’t have to become an inevitable part of getting older!
If you know that your parents have a strong social connection, then they’re likely to:
- Report better quality of life and satisfaction with their life
- Have delayed progression of dementia and mental decline
- Need less domestic support and enjoy greater independence.
Which activity is best?
Here are some talking points to get the conversation started with your parents about which activity would be of most interest to them.
- How far are you willing to travel for the activity? Does it need to be walking distance away?
- How many hours do you want to spend on this each week?
- Do you want this to be a solo activity, or something in a group setting?
- Would you prefer something more creative, or something physical?
- Do you want to give back to the community, or learn something new for yourself?
- Do you have a budget in mind, or would you prefer a free activity?
Ten activities to get started
Do any of these sound like they might suit your parents as they get older?
1. Sports programs
While getting your daily steps in is a great way to keep moving, if your preference is to hit the gym, there are plenty of low-impact programs out there that are better suited to someone starting to slow down.
As a worldwide organisation, Probus started back in 1965 for retired and semi-retired professionals. In Australia, Probus clubs comprise over-55s who usually meet monthly to organise activities including cruises, trips, picnics, events and fundraisers.
3. Men’s Shed
This is a not-for-profit organisation where blokes come together to work on a range of projects while speaking about what’s on their mind. With more than 1,000 ‘sheds’ across Australia, members do everything from making furniture to restoring bikes and fixing lawn mowers. If you’re concerned your dad might be struggling with life post-retirement, this is a great place to start.
For those who haven’t lost their love of learning, Open Universities Australia offer courses through universities across Australia and allows you to study entirely online.
5. Sing Australia
As a national organisation, Sing Australia has 150 groups around Australia. It’s perfect for someone who loves to sing, but wouldn’t be winning any karaoke competitions anytime soon!
From crochet to scrapbooks, crafting is ideal for someone who is feeling creative and wants to create a keepsake. Get onto Facebook or visit your parents’ local community centre to see what’s available.
With more than 600 clubs throughout Australia, Garden Clubs of Australia is an umbrella organisation to get involved with. Otherwise, check around to see if there is a community garden your folks can join to be able to meet likeminded lovers of the outdoors.
8. Tai Chi
Tai Chi is a great way to meet new people and also get in some low-impact exercise that’ll keep joints and muscles happy. Often referred to as ‘meditation in motion’, Tai Chi is an activity that combines awareness of the body, mindfulness, visualisation and relaxation. So, if your loved one feels stressed or agitated, Tai Chi is an opportunity to feel mentally and physically grounded.
Social activities can also include giving back to the local community through volunteering with a charity or organisation that your parents might have an affinity to. From the Australian Red Cross to working with a wildlife organisation the opportunities are endless.
10. Museum and gallery tours
For those with an interest in arts and culture, museums like the National Gallery of Victoria run group tours throughout the day, and these can be led by volunteers who share that passion for the arts.
How do you encourage your loved ones to get social?
Start small. If they can’t decide on an activity, pick something within their comfort zone to try out.
Get researching. Encourage your parents to use the list above as a starting point, so they can figure out the kind of activity they’d like to try.
Go local. If you’re starting with online research and hitting dead ends, try heading to your local council or community centre for inspiration instead.
Make a plan. Pencil time into the diary or book a class so that they have something to look forward to.
Rally the troops. Keeping your wider network of family and friends aware of what’s happening will help them to be more proactive about getting your parents more involved in social activities.
Keep trying. You don’t want your parents to feel disheartened if something doesn’t quite go the way they expected. If an activity wasn’t quite right for them, push them to try something new so they don’t lose momentum.
Share successes. From a simple phone call to see how the activity went, to bringing it up during conversation with extended family celebrating their getting out and about will help to encourage your parents to continue to do so.
To read more tips and insights from the experts behind The Guide to Living Well, click here to download it in its entirety.
For more information, call the Five Good Friends and Apia Care Advice line on 1300 50 27 42.
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